Navigating Motherhood Without Your Mother
Are you navigating the wild ride of motherhood without the support of your mother? When your mom is absent due to loss, estrangement, illness, or distance the journey of motherhood can feel especially heavy and heart-wrenching.
Navigating Motherhood Without Your Mother is the go-to podcast for moms who lack maternal support and desire to make peace with the past, build confidence in their present role, and break harmful generational patterns for the future. This show empowers moms to achieve lasting results, such as improved emotional regulation, breaking cycles of dysfunction, and fostering a healthy family environment.
Alyssa Carlene, your host, is a dedicated mom on a mission. With emotional depth and passion drawn from her transformative journey, she proves that the absence of a motherly figure can make you stronger—and that you don't have to face this path alone. Through her 5-step ROOTS framework, listeners will learn to Recognize harmful patterns, Own their stories, Open their hearts to forgiveness, Transform limiting beliefs, and Set new boundaries.
If you've been asking questions like:
- How can I make peace with the past and be the best parent for my children?
- How can I build confidence in my present role as a mother?
- What can I do to break unhealthy and harmful generational cycles?
- How do I set healthy boundaries with my mother and/or other family members?
- What are ways I can foster emotional resilience?
- Where can I find support navigating motherhood without my mom?
- What are the potential root causes of my chronic pain and mental health struggles?
- How can I create a healthier and stable home environment for my family?
- What are some alternative methods for overcoming the wounds of my past?
- How do I stop people pleasing so I can better care for my needs?
- How can I open my heart to forgiveness to move forward and continue healing myself?
Then this show is for you!
Navigating Motherhood Without Your Mother
33. Three Lessons Learned After a Complete Social Media/Media Detox + Podcast Announcement!
After a week-long complete social media/media detox, Alyssa Carlene learned three major lessons she wants to share with you.
If you're struggling with the weight of the world and the collective heaviness many mothers and humans feel at this time, this episode provides some great examples of why unplugging is necessary for inner peace and a deeper connection to God.
Listen to the episode to answer the following questions:
- What triggers are causing me to overuse social media?
- Why can social media or other media keep me from processing emotions that I need to feel?
- Why should I take time to unplug or detox as a mom?
1. Want to join a supportive, heartfelt community with other moms who are also navigating motherhood without their mothers? Join our Facebook Group today!
2. Are you ready to build confidence and emotional resilience as a mom, even without the support of your mother? Access the free video training now: Five Steps to Navigating Motherhood Without Your Mother!
3. Want to chat more about what it's like to mother without your mom and get personalized support? Send Alyssa Carlene a DM on Instagram!
When's the last time you had a complete media detox? Not just social media, but media, TV, music, podcasts. Have you ever challenged yourself, maybe one day, three days, seven days, a month even, which is quite a stretch, to no social media, no TV, no podcasts, no music. That's what I did. I did a six and a half, my goal was seven. I made it six and a half days without any social media, no podcasts, no music. I gave myself the okay to listen to music without words, just instrumental, no TV, and it has been quite a game changer for me. I would love to share with you some of the things that I've learned and also a quick announcement about the future of this podcast and some changes that are going to be taking place. You're listening to Navigating Motherhood Without Your Mother. Here, we help moms with young children who lack support from their mothers to make peace with the past, build confidence in the present role, and break harmful generational patterns for the future through the Five-Step Roots Framework. My name is Alyssa Carleen. I am a motherhood empowerment and generational healing coach. My mission is to help you discover the root causes of your struggles so you can foster emotional resilience and create a healthy, loving home environment for your family. Please remember my podcast content is for educational purposes only and should never replace proper medical and mental health guidance from licensed professionals. Let's get started. So the month of September for me and for many people, I imagine, especially if you live in America and you are familiar with some of the really crazy, horrific acts of violence. There have been a lot that have hit really close to home. And I just want to put a trigger warning out there because I am going to be addressing some of these acts of violence. So little ears, it's not appropriate for little ears right now. But with the assassination of Charlie Kirk, that actually took place at the college that I went to and graduated from. We used to live there. It just felt like it was so close to home. And then yesterday we found out that a church was shot at. Many people were shot at the church, and that is actually my church, the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. I don't think I've been very open about my religious affiliation, but I am a member of this church. And so to feel this very heavy, scared, collective negative energy, and then to witness such divisiveness online and such horror has been really difficult for me, as for many, I imagine, and many mothers who are listening. I've felt sad that I can't turn to my mom more and call her and share with her these feelings that I have. And so I wanted to share with you why the reason why I did this detox, why I did this was because of these events and the reality that we need to step away. We need to unplug and turn off. It is absolutely essential and necessary, even if it's a day, even if it's a few hours, unplug and connect back to God because that's where we find inner peace, we find love, we find confidence, we find beauty. If you turn off your phone and go interact with your neighbors or people outside, there are good people everywhere, right? But we go on our phones and we read the news and we see these things and we witness horrific acts of violence and we just feel devastated. I mean, yesterday I found out about the shooting at one of my churches, and I was sick all day. I just felt angry and mad and devastated and heartbroken and all these emotions. And every time I hear about a shooting, about, you know, these horrific acts of violence, I just feel terrible. I wanted to do this detox because I also wanted to have some clarity about the future of this podcast and what I wanted to do. So first I want to share with you just a few things that I noticed on this detox before I share my announcement with you about the podcast and some changes to come. But one of the first things I noticed was that loneliness was a major factor for me wanting to pick up my phone and go on social media. And when I didn't have social media and when I was doing that detox, I realized that loneliness was a big trigger. So it made me sit with it. It really made me think about how can I combat this or how can I be okay with being alone? And it's hard because sometimes I wish, like I just mentioned, I wish I could call my mom. I really do. Like many of you, wish that you could have a motherly figure that you could just call and cry to. I have other women and moms in my life that are so helpful and loving, and I'm so grateful to them that they are able to help ease that burden. But it's always going to be this gap or this hole, so to speak, of grieving the mother that you wish you had, right? So there was that aspect that I took away. And then another thing I learned was that there's a lot of noise. So much noise contributes. And I think that sometimes we like the noise because it distracts us from our emotions, it distracts us from what we're really feeling. So I put on podcasts all the time. I love listening to podcasts. I have like my weekly podcast that I listen to every week. And that was honestly the hardest thing to give up out of everything, which sounds kind of funny, but I recognized that it also was a contributor to numb out some of my emotions and some of the feelings that I had. So I'm not saying, you know, podcasts are bad, don't listen. I'm a podcaster. I want you to listen. But be in tune with the extra noise, the extra voices that you're allowing into your life, because sometimes we just don't need it. And the last thing I want to mention is that the presence that you feel when you are unplugged and disconnected is just unlike anything else. It is so serene. It is so beautiful to just be offline, truly be offline and be there. I was kinder, I was more patient, I was more aware of other people, I wasn't as distracted. So there were some really cool takeaways from this, some things I want to implement in the future, some boundaries I need to be better about setting. And it just felt like it was so needed. So my challenge to you, as my listener, is to do your own detox, set your own rules, do it for a day, do it for a week, however long you need, but try it. I guarantee it's gonna change your life. And then message me and tell me how it went. As for the announcement, it's really quick and it's simple, but I have been working on this podcast and cranking out episodes every week, every Tuesday, and I've showed up. And last week I did my detox and I didn't post an episode. And I did it because I am taking a step back. I want to really produce the most quality content and I want it to be something that's important and special and to not feel burnt out or like, oh, I gotta do another episode, I've got to get it done. So I've made the decision to start posting every other Tuesday. So that's the change coming in the future. And I would love to know any of your feedback. If you have listened to my podcasts in these episodes and they've helped you, please feel free to message me, give me feedback, and also if you would leave a review, that would help me so much to get this podcast out to other moms who need it. It would mean the world to me, and it would just help me also to know that I'm making an impact. There are times when I'm putting episodes out there and I'm doing this, and I think to myself, maybe this isn't worth it. Maybe I'm not helping anybody. And I know that that's my own inner critic, my own limited beliefs. So truly, your feedback means the world. And thank you for listening. Thank you for being here and being a part of this journey. It really means so much because this podcast is like my third baby. It's so special to me, and I want it to be the best it can be. So thank you. Thanks for listening, and have a great rest of your day.