Navigating Motherhood Without Your Mother
Are you navigating the wild ride of motherhood without the support of your mother? Motherhood is challenging, and doing it without the presence and/or loving guidance from your mom can feel isolating, heartbreaking, and discouraging.
Navigating Motherhood Without Your Mother is the go-to podcast for moms who lack maternal support to make peace with the past, build confidence in their present role, and break harmful generational patterns for the future. This show empowers moms to achieve lasting results, like better emotional regulation, ending cycles of dysfunction, and creating a healthy family environment.
Alyssa Carlene, your host, is a dedicated mom on a mission. With emotional depth and passion drawn from her transformative journey, she proves that the absence of a motherly figure can make you stronger—and that you don't have to face this path alone. Through her 5-step ROOTS framework, listeners will learn to Recognize harmful patterns, Own their stories, Open their hearts to forgiveness, Transform limiting beliefs, and Set new boundaries.
If you've been asking questions like:
- How can I make peace with the past and be the best parent for my children?
- How can I build confidence in my present role as a mother?
- What can I do to break unhealthy and harmful generational cycles?
- How do I set healthy boundaries with my mother and/or other family members?
- What are ways I can foster emotional resilience?
- Where can I find support navigating motherhood without my mom?
- What are the potential root causes of my chronic pain and mental health struggles?
- How can I create a healthier and stable home environment for my family?
- What are some alternative methods for overcoming the wounds of my past?
- How do I stop people pleasing so I can better care for my needs?
- How can I open my heart to forgiveness to move forward and continue healing myself?
Are you ready to transform yourself and cultivate the loving home you’ve always dreamed of and deserve? Then this show is for you!
Navigating Motherhood Without Your Mother
11. Why Gratitude Shifts the Energy of Your Home
Would you like a simple way to quickly shift the energy of your home? Motherhood can be extremely loud and exhausting—and sometimes the tone at home starts to match that chaos.
In this episode of Navigating Motherhood Without Your Mother, gratitude is the answer! Join Alyssa Carlene as she shares her experience with thankfulness and ways to plant seeds of gratitude in your children!
Listen to the episode to answer the following questions:
- How can I bring more peace into my home, starting with me?
- What can I do to help my kids feel more grounded - even when I'm exhausted?
- Is there a simple way to feel more present and less overwhelmed today?
- Can something as small as gratitude really make a difference in how I feel?
Want to chat more about how to navigate motherhood without your mother and get personalized support? Send Alyssa Carlene a DM on Instagram!
I found the most beautiful quote on gratitude by a woman named Kristen Armstrong, who is an Olympic gold medalist and mother. She said, I just love this, and I couldn't agree more with this sentiment. I want you to think of these questions while listening to today's episode. What does gratitude mean to you? How does it impact your daily life? And what changes can be made so that gratitude becomes a priority? You're listening to Navigating Motherhood Without Your Mother. Here, we help moms with young children who lack maternal support to overcome childhood wounds and break harmful generational patterns through the five-step Roots Framework. My name is Alyssa Carlene. I am a motherhood empowerment and generational healing coach. My mission is to help you discover the root causes of your struggles so you can learn to regulate your emotions and create a healthy, loving home environment for your family. Please remember that my podcast content is for educational purposes only and should never replace proper medical and mental health guidance from licensed professionals. Let's get started. If you haven't already, I'd love for you to connect with me on Instagram at alissa.carleen.rogers. I share simple reflections and soft reminders for the journey of motherhood. You can stay in the loop on new episodes and interact with me and other moms who are navigating this wild ride that is motherhood without the support of your mother. Thanks so much for being here. In this episode we are exploring how small moments of genuine thankfulness can shift the emotional energy of your home. Whether it's pausing to name one good thing or modeling simple gratitude for your kids, this practice is less about perfection and more about presence. Let's talk about how to let gratitude gently guide the tone of your motherhood and the tone of your home. So why gratitude? Motherhood is full and loud and exhausting. And sometimes the tone in our home starts to match that chaos. And I've heard it said that the mother especially sets the temperature for the home. And this is a hard one for me. It's a hard one for me because I know that how true this is. Growing up in my home with a mother who was very incapable and struggled so much, always in panic mode, that's what our home environment felt like. And so for me, when I get into that myself, when I fall into panic or some of these destructive moments, patterns that, you know, I learned growing up, but also things that, you know, my own mistakes that I make, I noticed that the temperature, the energy of the home really does match what I'm going through. And today I was thinking about my episode and what I wanted to do. And I was sitting at my desk and I saw my gratitude log and I thought, gratitude, Gratitude is truly one of the fastest and softest ways to shift energy. I love the fact that gratitude can just change something that feels so bad, so horrible, so unbearable in an instant to, hey, I can do this. Like, hey, I actually have so much going for me. And gratitude raises your vibration. It improves your mood, your health, everything. I mean, there's nothing bad about gratitude. You know, I've had lately really hard days, just crappy, bad, bad days after nights of no sleep for so long now and just really struggling mentally with some things. And I remember at the end of the day, you know, thinking of something just to write in my gratitude journal, anything that I could have. And no matter what, there's always something. And even if it's something ridiculous, okay, something ridiculous like Biscoff cookies. Yeah, I'm looking at my gratitude journal right now. And apparently on April 1st, I wrote Biscoff cookies. That's it. And I'm laughing because it must have been a really bad day for me to just write Biscoff cookies. But hey, I had some delicious cookies and that made me thankful. And that's all I could muster up to write. And that's okay. That's the power of gratitude. Here is how gratitude changes you. It anchors you in the moment. Because when you're forced to sit down and think about something you're grateful for, all of a sudden you're back in the present and you're here and now and you really have to think, what am I grateful for? It also calms your nervous system and it gently redirects your thoughts from what you lack to this sense of abundance and enoughness and just feeling full. And it's really interesting. that you feel that way because I will be honest, I've been in such a heavy, dark period of motherhood that I often feel empty. Like I'm running on, literally running on empty. I feel numb. There are things I'm going through, postpartum depression, you know, that I'm experiencing and different things with my children and with my own parents and mother. And so everything... that I feel and I'll have these thoughts like I just feel so empty. And so then I'll try to shift that and think, but I am so full. My life is so full. Look what I have. I am so grateful for blank. And when you feel calm and more calm, you're more grounded and your home really does reflect that. And this is how it's going to affect your children. Kids mirror you. We know this. They're little sponges. They mirror our emotional tone. I can't tell you how many times my almost five-year-old has said something. It's just something I say or something my husband says and she just repeats it and she sounds like just a little mini version of us. And it's not always good. Sometimes I'm like, oh my gosh, she picked that up from me. And that's okay. But other times I'm really proud, like, hey, you know what? She learned that from me and I'm really glad. So it's the same thing with modeling gratitude. And then of course, gratitude is going to model being mindful, present, and joyous, which these are all things that we want in our home. You're planting seeds every time you pause and say, wow, I am so thankful. I'm so thankful that you're my children. I'm so glad we have food to eat and a home to live in. And you're changing that energy. Next, here are some simple gratitude habits that can shift that energy really fast. So something really cool you could start doing as a family. Say one thing out loud each morning or bedtime. Start meals with one small gratitude. And you know, We want to model this. We don't want to force it. I think gratitude is something really beautiful. You can express it through a family prayer, through a family ritual, whatever it is. Just sit around the table. I always loved during Thanksgiving, especially we would go around the table and say what we were grateful for. Why not do that every day? I think it's a beautiful thing. So it's just figuring out what works for your family. You could keep a family thank you jar. Or you could create a gratitude list on the wall, maybe make a poster, make an art project with your kids where everybody can see and they can read. And then for you personally, you could have your own as well. So it could be something as a family and then it could be something separate. And you want it to be playful and it doesn't have to be perfect. And there are times when I don't keep up with my gratitude. It's not really a journal. It's a log. And I write down the date. I made a goal to start doing this every day because I was feeling that heaviness in my life. And truly, it has changed my life. So think about this. What is one thing that you can say thank you for right now? And how might that tiny thank you ripple into your home today? I'll say this. I am so thankful for technology. I'm thankful for the ability to podcast and to express my story and my life and express things that can help other moms who are in the thick of it right now. There's always something to be grateful for. And I know there are going to be moments when you feel anything but, because I've had those moments almost more often than not these days. And I'm right here with you in feeling like, what can I do to make a shift, even if it's small? You know, there are times when I'm flooded with so many negative thoughts and I'm exhausted. Everybody wants me. My kids want me. My husband wants my attention. You know, I don't have a big support system. Like I start to have these, you know, I don't have this. I don't have that. I'm blah, blah, blah. And I get caught up. And so really, if I can just pause and say, okay, but what do I have? There's always something. Gratitude is beautiful. It's simple. It's easy. Make it personal. Make it special. It's always a good idea to express gratitude and to be grateful. So if this episode spoke to you again, I'd love to connect over on Instagram and come tell me what you're grateful for today or just say hi. I love hearing from you. I want you to know that you're an amazing mother and every day you're taking steps to heal and to be better and And that's all that matters, small and simple. Thanks again for listening. Until next time, stay strong, mama.