Navigating Motherhood Without Your Mother
Are you navigating the wild ride of motherhood without the support of your mother? Motherhood is challenging, and doing it without the presence and/or loving guidance from your mom can feel isolating, heartbreaking, and discouraging.
Navigating Motherhood Without Your Mother is the go-to podcast for moms who lack maternal support to make peace with the past, build confidence in their present role, and break harmful generational patterns for the future. This show empowers moms to achieve lasting results, like better emotional regulation, ending cycles of dysfunction, and creating a healthy family environment.
Alyssa Carlene, your host, is a dedicated mom on a mission. With emotional depth and passion drawn from her transformative journey, she proves that the absence of a motherly figure can make you stronger—and that you don't have to face this path alone. Through her 5-step ROOTS framework, listeners will learn to Recognize harmful patterns, Own their stories, Open their hearts to forgiveness, Transform limiting beliefs, and Set new boundaries.
If you've been asking questions like:
- How can I make peace with the past and be the best parent for my children?
- How can I build confidence in my present role as a mother?
- What can I do to break unhealthy and harmful generational cycles?
- How do I set healthy boundaries with my mother and/or other family members?
- What are ways I can foster emotional resilience?
- Where can I find support navigating motherhood without my mom?
- What are the potential root causes of my chronic pain and mental health struggles?
- How can I create a healthier and stable home environment for my family?
- What are some alternative methods for overcoming the wounds of my past?
- How do I stop people pleasing so I can better care for my needs?
- How can I open my heart to forgiveness to move forward and continue healing myself?
Are you ready to transform yourself and cultivate the loving home you’ve always dreamed of and deserve? Then this show is for you!
Navigating Motherhood Without Your Mother
10. A Mantra for the Motherless Mother
Whether your mother is absent through loss, distance, or pain, this offering is here to hold you.
Today, Alyssa Carlene delivers a beautiful mantra that honors your grief, growth, and the sacred work of re-mothering yourself as you mother your child/children. May these words become a soft place to land in your deepest struggles.
Listen to the episode to answer the following questions:
- What can I say to myself when the ache and absence of my mother feels overwhelming?
- Where can I go for support as a motherless mother?
- Can I really heal & thrive without the mother I needed?
Want to chat more about how to navigate motherhood without your mother and get personalized support? Send Alyssa Carlene a DM on Instagram!
If you're mothering without your mother, whether she's passed or you're estranged or she's simply not the mother that you needed, this moment is for you. I know how lonely it can feel, especially in the quiet spaces where you wish that she were here. You wish that she would show up. You wish that she could help you. So today I want to offer you a beautiful mantra, something that you can cling and hold on to when the ache inside arises. You're listening to Navigating Motherhood Without Your Mother. Here, we help moms with young children who lack maternal support to overcome childhood wounds and break harmful generational patterns through the five-step Roots Framework. My name is Alyssa Carlene. I am a motherhood empowerment and generational healing coach. My mission is to help you discover the root causes of your struggles so you can learn to regulate your emotions and create a healthy, loving home environment for your family. Please remember that my podcast content is for educational purposes only and should never replace proper medical and mental health guidance from licensed professionals. Let's get started. Welcome to the episode today. Before we get into the mantra, the beautiful mantra, I would like to invite you to join me on Instagram. It's a place where you can feel seen and heard as I share some of the behind the scenes of my own life as well as tips and help and love for mothering without your mother. Wherever you are in your relationship with your mother, I want to be there to support you. So come along for the ride. Instagram is a great place to be. For the episode today, it's going to be very brief and I just want to introduce this mantra to you. Mantra, mantra, tomato, tomato. But I want to introduce this to you because I feel like I am affirmations and statements and phrases are so powerful and that's what mantras do. They Bring you such beauty and hope. And I feel like I'm in a spot in my life where I need this too, just as much, because I'm dealing with some heavy motherhood things right now with my children. So today, expect to learn a beautiful mantra and to just feel like you're not alone. Here it is. I mother the child. I mother the wound. I bloom in the silence. I sing a new tune. I am not alone. I am cradled and known. In her absence, I have grown. I'd like to take a moment to really reflect and think about what this mantra means. There is so much courage that it takes for a mother to do this without her mom. And I think this is something that can be overlooked. But our mothers shape us in so many ways. And if they were absent or gone from the time we were children, that's going to shape us too. That absence is going to shape us. So wherever you are, wherever you land, I like to call it the Landscape of maternal support. Wherever you land, whether it's you talk to your mom every day, but it's just not quite what you need. I love this idea of landscape because I love to think of mother nature to fall back to. But wherever you are, you aren't alone. And there is grief that's going to show up in milestones with your children, in your own life and then in quiet moments. And there is so much power in breaking cycles and becoming a nurturer that you may never have had or a nurturer that you need because she's gone now. So you don't have to do this perfectly. You don't have to be a perfect mom. You already are enough and your love is powerful. Even if you feel like you never fully received that love from your mother, I think it's important to ask yourself, how can I offer myself what I never received? What is it that you need right now and how can you offer that? And please be gentle and not judgmental. You are not alone in this path. You are truly part of a lineage of healing and I really want this mantra to remind you that you are held in even in your missing, even in your mothering. Thank you for listening. Join me on Instagram. I would love to have you. And keep repeating this mantra in your mind because it's powerful and it's true and you can do this.